It is all about attachment after all.
The amount of expectations we have from someone is proportional to the value of that person in your life. I wouldn’t expect an acquaintance miss her class to come and support me in some contest! I will definitely hold that expectation from my friend though… And why shouldn’t I?
I wouldn’t expect my “date” to sacrifice his sleep and talk to me… But yeah, I have that right over my boyfriend! ;) I cannot expect my friend’s mom to cook me something delicious when I go to her place… Well, from my mom, I don’t have to keep expecting… I think of it, it’s there in front of me… Isn’t the relationship very beautiful where I don’t have to expect at all? Everything is done for me on the person’s own accord! And all I have to say is, “Wow! You really care!”
No relationship lasts if there are unconventional expectations involved. But neither does it last when the conventional expectations are not even near to being fulfilled.
Then, should I stick in wait for the person I love, to tell me he loves me too or should I just coyly sit and watch as he craves for another woman?
Should I just let that friend go who would care more for some awfully wily person rather than ask me how I have been in the past few months?
Or, should I just wait until my parents understood me and let me freely accomplish my wish list?
Can I or can I not expect all of those things from the people I love so much?
Every person that comes in your life brings a relationship that attaches you to him. And that relationship tows in expectations.
But then should I just go ahead and throw all these tantrums and wait till I am attended to or be a strong person, understand others and not be understood at all?
People say; do not expect at all if you have to live a happy life. But then isn’t that becoming stagnant in the relationship altogether? How can you foster it if there isn’t any “nautanki” involved? No craving for attention? No feeling for the need of making the relationship stronger? More transparent? How can we not want to know how our counter-part is feeling about it?
After all, it is all about attachment. The more you love someone, the more you expect. The more chances for you to throw all your attention seeking gimmicks! But make sure all your demands are met after you have taken all those pains! :P
Very true bhagya. but i would like to add something here..
ReplyDeleteattachment is between two people and BY two people. its not like a simplex communication its a duplex (because u just finished ur computer networks exam :D)
But very often u will see the same thing happening with Expectations.
I have always thought abt it this way "Whenever ur expecting something from ur friends n family.. make sure you have done that "Something" for the other person as well.
m a little confused
ReplyDeletethe only conclusion i drew was that expectation is directly proportional to attachment
correct me if i am wrong
but don't u think relations like husband-wife, parent-children don't need any expectations at all?
I meant to say that with every relationship comes a series of expectation by default...
ReplyDeleteRelationships as close as a husband-wife, between your friends, siblings etc, also have some expectations attached to them. Irrespective of the attachment.
But, when these attachments grow stronger, the intensity of your wishes to get your expectations fulfilled also increases. :)
oh ok :) :D
ReplyDeletenice ^_^